The Five Pillars to Authentic Self-Improvement
The self-improvement space has overcomplicated how to improve.
Today, I'm talking about the five pillars of self-improvement.
It's simpler than you think.
1. Stand Firm in Integrity
Take a moral stand.
Now, I'm not here to preach, but let's get one thing straight: if there’s deceit in your life, it's time to ditch it.
Have you been telling lies? Stop it. (especially lies to yourself)
Stealing? Time to make it right.
Integrity is the foundation upon which everything else stands.
You can't improve if you don't know what to improve. That starts with telling yourself–and others–the truth.
Action Item: Jot down any areas where you’re not 100% honest or in integrity. Commit to making amends with a date and time attached to it.
2. Reevaluate & Reset Behaviors
This is simple.
Stop doing what isn't serving you and others. Start doing what will.
We all have habits that don't serve our higher purpose. Pinpointing these can be an eye-opener.
Sometimes it’s as simple as keeping your phone away while eating. Or it's quitting smoking.
It will take discipline. But discipline is learnable.
Challenge: Identify 2 habits you need to ditch and 2 habits you want to adopt. Take action on them TODAY.
3. Accountability Keeps You On Track
Here’s the thing: talking the talk isn't enough.
Having someone to hold your feet to the fire? That's gold.
Make sure you pick someone you trust to be honest with you.
Accountability means you've got someone who's rooting for you and pushing you.
Action Plan: Get an accountability buddy. It could be a close friend, family member, or even someone from a support group like We Are The They. Check-in weekly.
4. A Strong Community: Your Rock
You've heard it from me before: “It takes a village.”
A community that has your back, understands your journey, and supports your growth? That’s magic right there.
I cannot overstate the impact this has.
Action Plan: Join me in We Are The They where we focus on these 5 pillars (especially community)
5. Seek Mentorship: Learning from the Best
You wanna know a shortcut to success?
Learning from those who've been there, done that. An expert.
I've connected with guys like Andy Frisella, Ed Mylett, and many others. Their wisdom? Priceless.
I have avoided so many mistakes by internalizing their advice.
Game Plan: Identify mentors, whether in real life, books, or online courses. Absorb their lessons and apply them.
A note: don't put your "special sauce" on whatever they give you until you can replicate the results they have.
Bonus: Embrace Discomfort
If you want an extraordinary life, then lean into discomfort.
Most guys are stuck because they avoid the uneasy, the unknown.
But growth? It's born from discomfort.
Discomfort is hard. Now it won't surprise you.
Challenge: Do one thing today that scares you or takes you out of your comfort zone. See how it stretches and strengthens you.
Self-improvement isn’t about grand gestures but about consistent, small steps.
With these five pillars, mixed with intentional discomfort, you’re on your way to a better you.