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  • Writer's pictureJimmy Rex

The Unofficial Guide to Being a Man

Goldman Sachs recently put out a guide to what it looks like to be a man. I thought a lot of what was on that list was excellent and much needed reading for all men.  I took a few off of the list, added a few of my own and I think this is now an ultimate guide to being a man’s man. 


  1. Stop talking about where you went to college

  2. Always carry cash, keep some in your front pocket

  3. Burn your khakis and wear a suit or jeans

  4. Don’t do what you are taught is right, do what you feel is right 

  5. It’s ok to trade the possibility of your 80’s and 90’s for more guaranteed fun in your 20’s and 30’s 

  6. Women want to be ravished but not perceived to be a whore. Ask her what she likes and let her know how attractive it is to you  

  7. You will regret your tattoos

  8. Strip your life of someone else’s expectations

  9. Never date an ex of your friend

  10. If riding the bus doesn’t incentivize you to improve your situation in life, nothing will

  11. Hookers aren’t cool, but remember, the free ones are a lot more expensive

  12. When people don’t invite you to a party, you really shouldn’t go.  And sometimes when you are invited, you shouldn’t go

  13. Tip more than you should 

  14. Have a comfortable but classy outfit to travel in 

  15. The most expensive advice is usually free

  16. You probably use your cell phone too often and at the wrong moments

  17. Eat brunch with friends at least every other weekend

  18. Act like you’ve been there before.  It doesn’t matter if it is the end zone or a private plane

  19. You can get away with a lot more if you’re the one buying the drinks

  20. Don’t split the check 

  21. Anything worth doing is worth doing right

  22. Pretty women who are unaccompanied want you to talk to them

  23. Be spontaneous

  24. Do something every day that makes you uncomfortable 

  25. Call your friends. You might not need them but they need you 

  26. Piercings are liabilities in fights 

  27. Desserts are for women. Order one and pretend you don’t mind that she’s eating yours

  28. Buy a tuxedo before age 30, stay that size 

  29. Don’t make promises when you are happy, don’t make decisions when you are angry

  30. One girlfriend at a time is probably enough

  31. Measure yourself only against your previous self 

  32. Your clothes do not match, they go together

  33. Yes, of course you have to buy her dinner

  34. Staying angry is a waste of time

  35. Don’t ask others for relationship advice.  The parts of the story you aren’t and shouldn’t tell them changes what you should do

  36. Don’t use the word “closure” or ever expect it in real life

  37. Date women outside your social set. You’ll be surprised

  38. You cannot have a love affair with alcohol because it will never love you back

  39. No-one cares if you are offended, so stop it

  40. You should get your hair cut or trimmed every 2-2 ½ weeks 

  41. Spend your money on experiences, not things

  42. Never take an ex back. She tried to do better and is settling with you

  43. Read more.  It allows you to borrow someone else’s brain

  44. It’s hard not to love someone you truly get to know, lean in 

  45. If you see a man abusing a woman you always intercede

  46. Ignore the boos.  They usually come from the cheap seats

  47. Life isn’t fair so rig the rules to favor you 

  48. Don’t gamble if losing $100 is going to piss you off

  49. Never ask another man for his autograph, your kids are watching

  50. Remember, “Rules are for the obedience of fools and the guidance of wise men.” 


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